Telling another girl she looks good in some dress, or her hairstyle suits her was so easy earlier. Nowadays, you get strange reactions that I think twice before I tell it. I am surprised how something complementary is taken the other way around. Sometimes people think I am sarcastic. Please, I don't need to be complementary to be sarcastic( I am bad at being sarcastic, rather, I am good at being blunt).
Telling a boy, even if much younger, that he looks good or his hairstyle suits him or anything is to get seriously into trouble. As a teacher, for me students of both the sex are the same. Just like I would complement a girl, I used to complement boys too. But, when I continued that after I became a student again, it got me in serious trouble. There were all sorts of expressions - wide eyed, wondering, non-understanding to say the least.
Should I say it is my mistake ? With my students, our roles are defined I guess. Me the teacher, and them the student. Gives me the liberty to complement and it will be taken in the right way as long as I don't go overboard, I guess. But otherwise, just a 'Good Morning' at a nice face in the morning gets you into trouble, for here, me as a girl better not look at a guy. I am solely defined by this garb, this dress I wear, of a woman. Even if they are 15 years your junior, it's trouble. For me, I am what I am. I like something and I tell it openly, without anything more. And that is it. I forget it after that.
What's happening with this generation ? Why is a little curtesy like a 'Thank You' with a smile at a door or a threshold crossing seen differently, with astonishment and smirks that too in an educational institution. Is being polite so out of fashion ? Or is it that I am expected to be stern faced all the time, as though I could kill someone with my looks. That would be so difficult. Think of passing life concentrating on keeping a stern face most of the time. But, here I am learning to be that nowadays. So sad, this world doesn't care to smile.